So welcome to my blog. Why should you read this compared to the other millions of people who just want to rant and yell? I don't know, that's up to you. For those who know me personally, you may not like what I have to say but nowadays, everyone wants to have an opinion and instead of writing in a diary I choose to write here. If you don't like it, don't read it.
A while back I was listening to P!nk's Stupid Girls now mind you this song is 6 years old, done at a time when Paris Hilton was becoming famous for being a stupid, spoiled whore and it seemed like the media was focused on every ditzy bleach blonde stumbling around like a moron. Sadly this only seems to be getting worse. Despite all the leaps and bounds of feminism, women getting away from simply being housewives to running for president, having careers and showing they can do this while still taking care of their family, society still wants to focus on the stupid girls. Seriously how did the Kardashian's get popular? Kim has a fat ass and a sex tape and a bunch of spoiled sisters whose sole purpose is to walk around being stuck up and getting paid to do nothing. On the other end of the spectrum, we have Honey Boo Boo, a fat white trash mother and her white trash daughter she exploits in pagents at least until she's too old to be cute anymore. While it's nice she's not anoexic and full of silicone, being disgustingly obese isn't a better alternative.
"What ver happened to the girl president? She's in the video next to 50 Cent."
Growing up I never really ran with "the girls." I was always a tom boy more geared towards Nintendo and Ninja Turtles rather than Barbie and My Little Pony. I had girl toys like stuffed animals and dolls. I had more fun pretending to be a super hero rather than a princess. Seriously, what's so great about being a princess? You sit around looking pretty. Sorry that's a bit boring for me.
Personally I never understood the populairity of Cinderella. Both the story and the Disney personification. Of all the Disney Princesses, she's the most vapid and shallow. She has no personality other than "my life is so sad. I wish it wasn't." She never tries to do anything to better her situation other than making a dress. Why she doesn't just pack up and leave her step family still baffles me and basically she gets everything handed to her simply because she was a sad sack. The lesson of her story is "don't worry if your life sucks, just sit around and everything will get handed to you because you're a good person." This is why I like Bell and Tiana better. They have brains and personality and Tiana isn't afraid to roll up her sleeves and make her own life better.
But hey kids like what kids like. Twilight on the other hand, has no excuse as most of it's audience is older and hitting puberty. I read all four books and watched the first movie. Can't bring myself to watch the others thanks to horrible acting. As for the books, they're bubble gum for me. I know they're silly and unrealistic and the teen equivalent of a Harlequin Romance novel but I'm not one of these sad girls who is so naive to think that this has any baring on real world love. Edward has no personality. He stalks Bella and is constantly putting her in danger. Throughout the four books she's bloody, beaten, tries to commit sucide, and almost dies in childbirth all because she couldn't say "maybe falling in love with a vampire isn't a good idea." I always wonder what Bella's life would've been like had she not met Edward. She probably would've gone to college, majored in English Literature, maybe become a college professor or lawyer but no she threw it all away to hang out with the undead. Wonder what will happen in a few years when she realizes she threw her life away for some sparkly guy who no personality. I'd love to read that book.
And yet I feel like it's these two things that are leading to a generation of girls, who instead of focusing on being strong and independent. Sit around starry-eyed dreaming of Mr. Right. Heck while in college, I was surrounded by girls with this hang up that they'd be 30 and single and that this was a terrible thing? Why? College doesn't exist simply for girls to find husbands. And yet it's this starry eyed mindset of "finding Prince Charming" that leads girls to abusive relationships, divorce and regret because they go for the first guy that comes along instead of finding themselves. You have to love yourself in order to love another.
Now look, I'm not some man hating ice queen feminst. I'm married and very happy but I didn't get married out of fear of being alone or desperately wanting to have my fairy tale wedding. I married for love. And girls there's nothing wrong with wanting to get married and have children or even be a housewife. After all feminism is about choice. But the message I am trying to get across is that don't get obsessed over a fantasy that isn't real. There are no Prince Charmings and Edward Culllens in the real world. Just nice guys and mean guys.
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